Triggered by Sexually Liberated Women? – #AskTheNaturals

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  1. TheThetvguy on October 8, 2020 at 7:54 pm

    Both sides have a lot of truths in my opinion…. Deep down I understand positivity and progress is the way and seems to be the way forward. So because of that I’ll reserve crtiques. But totally sense a "holier than thou" vib coming from both camps and I don’t think thats helpful for group that’s really just trying to be "helpful"

  2. Christoph Schöfmann - Herzarbeit on October 8, 2020 at 7:55 pm

    Awesome advice as usual (Y) thank you!

  3. TheThetvguy on October 8, 2020 at 7:55 pm

    For me the underlying reality behind all of this I realise that we’re all going to die alone. Sex is pleasure and for a lot of ppl the ultimate pleasure so if you know the person you want to be with can’t show restraint I guess ppl get anxious if the idea that their "perfect match" will leave them and take all that potential happiness away and potential leaving you to die a lone depressed. And if you can’t get your head around all the life force of energy you put into achieve a dream you probably concieved around 4 years old…. Tough cookies dream better next time…. Oh well.

  4. Christ died for our sins on October 8, 2020 at 7:55 pm

    If you read the Bible you would learn a lot about women the prophet Hosea was told to marry a prostitute and often the people of God are referred to as an unfaithful woman the song of Solomon is also an interesting book the whole Bible is about marriage and relationships and sexuality and pleasure God created sexuality you if read the Bible you might find it interesting Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures was buried and rose again on the third day according to the scriptures 1 Corinthians 15 verse 3

  5. reasonably cubic bumblebee on October 8, 2020 at 7:56 pm

    keen observation, deep reflection, purposeful scrutiny and pragmatic coping. all very well delivered.
    you’ve got it nailed, my love.
    i feel understood like i seldomly do.

    from what i can tell i am pretty much in the same situation as you and your wife were. but i’m not willing to look at it as unresolvable yet.
    we’ve been together for six years. we’ve had other sexual partners during that time. we’re both struggling with jealousy but me especially. we try to bear it. if we cant, we create some distance and take a break. a couple of months or even a year. then we have another go. we get close, fall in love all over again and try to make it better. each time we can handle reality a bit better and shake off a tiny piece of these absurd ideas we were conditioned to believe in. it may very well take a decade or so. but i believe that some day she and i will be able to both love each other deeply and accept that we cannot possess one another.

    if i can handle it in an affair, i must to be able to handle it in a loving relationship as well.
    wish me luck.

  6. SCheco3 on October 8, 2020 at 7:57 pm

    Let’s presume woman & men accept our animalistic desire to fuck while avoiding judgements. Thus, we have more casual sex leaving the door open for a potential exponential risk to STDs. How have you guys addressed this risk that comes with fucking more women? Thank you.

  7. Lucian Ionita on October 8, 2020 at 7:58 pm

    After watching this, I’m under the impression that James gets funnier as he gets older because he understands more an more. I had a good laugh at some of his commentaries. Great job, James! You gave some very important lessons here, as always.

  8. Veeru Singh on October 8, 2020 at 8:00 pm

    James You Never married in you life untill now!!!

  9. kox444 on October 8, 2020 at 8:00 pm

    The most shocking fact revealed in the video:

    James was married

  10. Pix P on October 8, 2020 at 8:00 pm

    Interesting discussion but me and the guys that I practice seduction with have all experienced the exact opposite of this. i.e – the male being open minded with whatever she’s into. But instead the road block comes from her end where most women are just leaches looking to feed off of our emotional stability and other resources. It’s always the,’You need to be my boyfriend before sex’ types that I’ve encountered, even when things have been made dead serious. As an example this is something I experience on a weekly basis where I will meet a girl that says ,"Oh I have a boyfriend’ or something of that sort and I’ll say, ‘I’m not here to be your boyfriend’. But ultimately you still need to meet her up for a date before getting into bed and what appears to be a constantly occurring trend is that these girls will come along to the date for the experience of being with a cool guy, having an enjoyable conversation , getting to see some new places and eat new food, bla bla bla, eat up resources bla bla bla, talk about how she wished her ex had been more like me. But of course end of the day when going for the pull all of the ,’Urm I’m not sure maybe after the next date’ crap starts up. And ultimately, its me and the other guys who end up rejecting the girl after that point (not trying to brag here, sorry if it sounds that way). But ya, in a nutshell I see the exact opposite of the situation in this video where the guys are being called shallow and what not and the girls just fake interest for the resources and emotional stability and the authenticity with their lack from most guys, and at the end try to one up us by running away with the ‘goods’ while the guy hasn’t gotten his due rewards. But hey, end of the day she’s missing out since we obviously see what her act is and leave her after that.

  11. Dk Chanel on October 8, 2020 at 8:04 pm

    *Ich schmeiß mich weg.Mal wieder ein geniales Video, was auch noch gesellschaftskritisch ist.Super Arbeit, ihr seid eindeutig mein Lieblingskanal! Bitte bleibt so💋💋💋💋💋💋👌💋💋💋💋💋💋👌*

  12. Keylanos Lokj on October 8, 2020 at 8:04 pm

    funny how you simps adopt misandric feminist language. "triggered"? more like healthy reaction to wickedness. and "liberated"? more like degenerated.

  13. Liz Rising on October 8, 2020 at 8:07 pm

    Truly thorough and remarkable delivery!

  14. Victor Ludorum on October 8, 2020 at 8:12 pm

    You should reconsider your argument at 17:30…

  15. joshfree01 on October 8, 2020 at 8:12 pm

    I’m torn. I appreciate the message in this video, but the sexual encounter you described baffles me. If a potential partner has a sexual fantasy that I don’t happen to share, do I *have* to indulge it? I’m not exactly looking to be a universal sexual healer. Can’t I just respond with a non-judgmental (I think), "sorry, not my thing, been fun" and part ways amicably? It would seem to me that, in this case, we’re just not sexually compatible. I don’t have to have sex with her; she doesn’t have to have sex with me. Where am I wrong on this? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.

  16. Erik Syring on October 8, 2020 at 8:14 pm

    13:45: No, women are LESS sexual partner discerning than men are – at least once she has an erection/has had a first orgasm. Evolution intended a woman to have sex with 3-4 guys (often a combination of males and females) in a row when she is aroused (because she is such a lot longer than a man is).

  17. Nicolás Carollo on October 8, 2020 at 8:16 pm

    But what about the pairbonding? Is is possible for a woman to pairbond after so many sexual partners? I’m so confused right now..

  18. Erik Syring on October 8, 2020 at 8:16 pm

    22:10: No, partners should be radically open about desire.

  19. Simon Singput on October 8, 2020 at 8:17 pm

    Sounds like Johnny Soporno copy/paste…

  20. Idle Insights on October 8, 2020 at 8:17 pm

    I agree entirely. I have a fear the girl will regret having a great experience with me the following day(s) and who knows what will happen then. In our "age," particularly in a left-leaning part of the US, this scares me. Any advice? This is coming from someone who has sex regularly and am not seeking an excuse.

  21. Thomas Hope on October 8, 2020 at 8:18 pm

    As a 44 year old guy who has a fair amount of life experience I can concur with James… this really rings true for me. From an early age I became aware that women like sex for sex irrespective of any mainstream counter-narratives. Yet still, it has been a slow process shaking off the social conditioning that made me at times deny reality. I gradually have come to understand and accept reality more readily, so nowadays I am much less threatened by the truth; she like me, is an animal living in a complex matrix, and when we are intimate it is special… just not in the way we were taught by mainstream society.

  22. aecc035791 on October 8, 2020 at 8:18 pm

    I wouldn’t consider her any less of a good human being. I would however, consider her bad bad marriage material. Marriage at the end of the day is a social construct, if they don’t believe in that why do all women try to get you to commit after a while

  23. Karl on October 8, 2020 at 8:18 pm

    Hey TNL, I wanted to ask you a question but don’t know where to ask so opted for the YouTube comment section.

    So I’ve had this paradox I’ve been trying to solve for around a year now. Basically, what motivates you to chase success in women, money, career, health or anything?

    Whenever I’ve tried to work on for example my confidence or game, that’s always been because of a feeling that I wasn’t good enough the way that I was.

    I’ve found that the moments I was most at peace with myself, I had no motivation to try and improve my life because I was happy just the way I was. Recently I find I don’t have the same drive that I had before.

    I have three potential answers on why I should strive for success:
    1. Because if I don’t have any self-concerns , then all that is left is seeking new life experiences and living to the fullest.
    2. Because if I respect myself then I want the ‘best’ life for myself, including health, the best people around to influence me and the security of money.
    3. Because on my journey of self development I’ve only ended up feeling better about myself, and I don’t know how far I could take it unless I try.

    I’m not completely satisfied with these answers. I can already be fulfilled the way I am and will I not just be compensating for a lack of something by trying to get more external things? Was hoping to hear your take on what motivates you, if you have the time? 🙂

  24. Sky Cloud on October 8, 2020 at 8:20 pm

    Surely sexual objectification works both ways? The more of any sexual partners any woman or man has then surely that’s got to cheapen the feelings that can potentially have for a future partner? It’s a boredom thing. Too much of anything can spoil anything good. You can buy a Ferrarri, a Lambo, and a whatever times collection of supercar, but I bet you they won’t feel as special as your very first beat up and rusting pimped out teenage car. Too much promiscuity will cheapen you and fracture yours or her future experience.

    If I met a promiscuous woman, how is she ever not going to see me as anything more special than Mr Donkey balls #36? Emotionally the more a woman has sex with different partners, the less she will inevitably feel towards me at the end. I may as well just be another walking sausage by that point, a bio in a catalogue of choices, and the same can be just as reversed. Yet, if both a man and woman kept their spiritual selves saved for only a one person (perhaps a few is fine), they will feel something so special that they can make the happiness last a lifetime. It wouldn’t matter if you both not perfect.

    This is not something unrealistic. Think about how soldiers, fireman, paramedic, any demanding professions that harden up people under great trauma and pressure. They adapt to the new normal. I feel that is what is must be like with promiscuity. They adapt to some kind of new normal. If you knock too many people then you will always see them as ‘just another’ and no amount of reaching out or empathy will work. You will never be happy with your choice because the ‘one’ you finally chosen to be with is very likely not the best you’ve had (or hers either). Abundance is as a cheap as grains of sand. Plenty of it, but at what value?

  25. Unity&Diversity on October 8, 2020 at 8:20 pm

    Sex outside of marriage leads to rape allegations with unknowable levels of authenticity, and mouths to feed that will need male role models. Polygamy leads to shithole community’s when their long term logical implications get worked out.

  26. Jack William on October 8, 2020 at 8:21 pm

    If a girl wants to be tied up…. run.! Gtfo don’t listen to this ausie creep. You are better then that

  27. Brian N on October 8, 2020 at 8:21 pm

    So how do we actually reduce our Madonna whore complex? I realise it’s bulldhit. But I do get disgust and internally judge girls who I develop feelings for when/if I realise they let me have sex easy. And I can’t enjoy the sex as much with them but I can with "sluts." Is there a practical exercise I can do?

  28. Prince LJ on October 8, 2020 at 8:24 pm

    Being non-judgmental is legit.
    Every now & then I think: "This woman is fucking somebody. Who is it? What is he doing that I should be doing?"

  29. Madcircle on October 8, 2020 at 8:24 pm

    let’s foreplay with a scenario

  30. The Natural Lifestyles on October 8, 2020 at 8:27 pm

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  31. Veeru Singh on October 8, 2020 at 8:28 pm

    Liar!!! You never got married.

  32. True Northern Son on October 8, 2020 at 8:28 pm

    The worldview on humanity’s treatment of women coming from pure sociological factors has some major flaws. We are deeply beastly and biological beings. The manner in which my environment conditions me to behave has a role, but it can and often is overshadowed by the drives of hundreds of thousands of years of evolution that morphed us into our current forms. In my opinion, being struck back and losing attraction if a woman tells you she has a high partner count is an involuntary, unconditioned response. My emotional process is likely quite parallel to how my ancestors would have felt in a similar situation, same may a woman might raise the side of her lip involuntarily in disdain if I were to reveal a beta trait to her.

  33. TheCausation on October 8, 2020 at 8:28 pm

    Feminism is for dickless soy boys.

  34. Sergio Garcia on October 8, 2020 at 8:28 pm

    Sorry, I don’t think sex is just a physical act, it is deeply related to espiritual/emotional bonding and to procreation. Just my personal opinion, not just related to girls but guys too.

  35. humanyoda on October 8, 2020 at 8:29 pm

    Thanks! That was useful.

  36. Hylke Tromp on October 8, 2020 at 8:29 pm

    If you have a Girlfriend, do you want to know everything she did sexually? Or do you tell her you don’t want to know anything of that?

    I myself always asked my last girlfriend every detail, I guess also for reference experience. But I think for my next girlfriend I would be better of not knowing it and ki d of live in ignorance. I could handle the truth but why would I?

  37. M H on October 8, 2020 at 8:29 pm

    Really amazing video , i hope there is a second part or a product about this

  38. Kingfillins on October 8, 2020 at 8:31 pm

    Their sexuality was not just controlled by men.. it was literally controlled by a lack of both control and that is in large part what led to the social structures.

  39. kox444 on October 8, 2020 at 8:33 pm

    #AskTheNaturals – James, I think you mentioned one time that you have lived in over 20 cities. What do you think would be the top locations (in winter/summer) for a beginner? Currently I’m in central Europe and it’s summer, so it’s all good. But I was wondering, in a blink of an eye, the sunshine will be over. I care about the weather, but I care more about making some serious progress with girls this year. So what’s better for winter: a big city in Europe where there are certainly lot’s of girls, but it’s cold as fuck and days are short, or some exotic places south of the equator, where it’s summer? Can you do a location roundup?

  40. Jul on October 8, 2020 at 8:33 pm

    Thank you very much for this video. I’m in my first relationship ever, and I’m having some very disturbing thoughts of my girlfriend’s sexual past, the amount of guys she’s had, my dick being inadequate (she has had bigger) and so on. This video gives an answer for everything and makes me feel better overall.

  41. Big dumb jerk on October 8, 2020 at 8:34 pm

    Why is it always about what the woman wants? What about what men want?

    Infidelity has been the only constant in my life, am I just supposed to sit here and take it?
    "Oh it’s okay that you went out and let some guy fingerbang you in a bar sweetybuns I still love you and you’re free and empowered and can do whatever you want"

    I end up sleeping around to cope with the crippling loneliness; but It doesn’t matter how many women I end up sleeping with, that lack of pure emotional monogamous love has punched a hole in my life and no amount mental gymnastics to convince myself "yeah, I don’t need a loving partner to be happy" has helped.

    All I’ve ever wanted in life was someone who loves me to grow old with, and I realize this is impossible because women don’t work this way and can never love a man the way a man would love them; but I wish people would at least stop telling me I’m wrong for having these feelings. You couldn’t possibly understand.

  42. Ken-ki 剣気 on October 8, 2020 at 8:38 pm

    I know, I should give a try to anal even though it doesn’t turn me on at all.

  43. Hermann Russian on October 8, 2020 at 8:40 pm

    There is no condemnation itself in will to be a special guy. Yes, this will in 99% cases engages with judgement based on patriarchal values. To understand it look at sexually liberated girls’ will not to be just a pussy for fuck. (My considerations based on "economical" point of view on Homo sapiens, particually on how people MAKE CHOICE.) But instead of be special "lazy" people put judgements on their partners to make themselves special for them.
    But in general I’m absolutely agree with you, James.

  44. SPIKE on October 8, 2020 at 8:41 pm

    Lot of wisdom here

  45. Kimasxi on October 8, 2020 at 8:42 pm

    Why do men get offended when they don’t get laid? Even though you approach them the next day, give them a hug and touch them with affection, something is already on as they don’t reciprocate it. I suppose it is ego-related.

  46. Archetypal Memes on October 8, 2020 at 8:42 pm

    bla bla patriarchy bla bla

  47. Ros Smail on October 8, 2020 at 8:42 pm

    So how do I find the lover who can facilitate me being pure and wild?

  48. Freigeist Lohse on October 8, 2020 at 8:43 pm

    well done!

  49. liberalatheist on October 8, 2020 at 8:49 pm

    Flirting with way too simplistic leftie ideas, but otherwise gold. Thanks.

  50. Emynodupeus Dupeusnoemy on October 8, 2020 at 8:52 pm

    I read men’s sexuality being simple is a myth. You guys do your researches if you curious on how to have more sexual fun.

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